I cannot remember how it all started. I guess my wife, whom I call Baby, came home and narrated what happened to one of her friends.
The following morning I felt such sordid stories, posted on my Facebook wall, could serve as lessons to women. In a few minutes, the story was posted on my wall. The responses, the likes, and the comments were mammoth.
That evening, some women who had experienced such agonies left in my inbox some long stories about their lives. Two days later, I published one of them. The responses were even greater.
Days later again, I published the second, and before I knew it, several friends’ requests began to pour in. In less than a month, my friends’ list grew from about one thousand to over three thousand names.
In another two months, I hit the five thousand mark on Facebook. This led to the creation of another account. In about two years, I have already gotten five accounts on Facebook!
Now, let me explain something here. The responses and Friend Requests I get from readers have shown me that so many women have problems they are battling with, and so many of them seek someone to speak with.
A lady once told me that she couldn’t go to her Church or speak with her pastor because she was not sure of the confidentiality she required.
She hid behind the anonymity of Facebook to pour out her mind and get consolation from readers. That evening, she called to thank me for giving her audience.
The fact that she had someone who listened to her lifted a great burden off her spirit. That was the day I made a promise to God that I would never stop giving consultation to people who seek my assistance or support.
A lady friend once accused me of making up the stories. To her, what I published on Facebook was fabricated. Another guy, a journalist, also said so. He even called them home video stories. I laughed!
You see, when some people have it rosy in life, they think that is how it is with others. Very insensitive people! And that is our problem. We are insensitive to other people’s plight.
So many people around us need shoulders to lean on: they need someone to speak with, they dress well, walk daintily, and ride the best of cars, but we don’t know the pains behind such a façade. Home video stories, indeed!
In a certain year, I stayed away from Facebook in July to concentrate on my church’s fasting and prayer programme.
When I returned, I found over 148 agonising emails and messages in my inbox from men and mostly women. I was shocked. I wondered how I would cope.
A friend advised me to turn this service into a lucrative business; to open an office and start charging people to get advice. I wondered how Jesus would feel if I had done that.
How many people did He charge to get His attention? It was so easy for me to discard that suggestion and continue the service for free. I am touched by the fact that so many people have got their deliverances from this little assistance I make. I feel mightily blessed by the friends I have made through Facebook. They are too numerous to mention.
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After 35 years in journalism, 20 years in marriage, 15 years as a counsellor and ten years in the ministry of Jesus, Bola Adewara insists that marriage is not a black market but an experience of continuous forgiveness! If you desire to pass the examination, get prepared beforehand by learning from the mistakes and triumphs of others encapsulated in MARRIAGE: 40 THINGS YOU MUST KNOW, a compilation of my posts on relationships that went viral on social media.